Kick some depression butt
I’m going to tell you something that helped me kick some depression butt!!!
Someone said something that hit me just right at the right time. It has helped me in a lot of ways with my depression.
A friend and I were talking one day about depression and how certain events can have a profound effect on your depression. Like when a major event can put you in a tailspin. Say you were in a war and all or most of your buddies died. (Just an example to help you get it.)
He listened and then casually said to me, “You do know that was not about you, don’t you?”
I was stunned!! How could it not be about Me? I was there!!
He said that all my buddies had reached the end of their story and I had not. Think about that outside what your head is telling you.
Your head tells you things like, Why Me? Joe should have lived instead of me, he’s a great guy and has a wife and 3 kids. – I should have gone instead of most of my buddies.
But, if you look at it logically and like he said it wasn’t about you. A group of people that circumstance put together. Fun, happy people. Random people put together for a purpose. You liked them a lot. A group of people that at that time were done with their life story. You still have a life story to finish living. You can not take someone’s place. It’s not about you. It was about them.
That was an amazing new concept to me. I look at things like we each have a life story, which is what I believe, things that happen to other people is not about my life story, it is about theirs.
I really should not be depressed about things that happen to other people. Very sad, sure, but not fall into a deep hole of depression about it. That is like trying to take the blame for someone else’s actions. It usually does not turn out well for you. Why should you punish yourself for someone else? It didn’t teach the guy you did it for anything. He will probably do something similar again and think someone will come along and bail him out again. What a shock when they don’t.
This idea is a bit of a chock, but, think what you are depressed about. Was it about you or really about someone else. We do have chemical imbalances and some thing will not change, but, maybe you are way more depressed about it than you should be.
The same thing holds true with bullied little kids. The bullying is not about them. It is about the other kid trying to make a name for himself or herself.
School kids that commit suicide make me want to cry. If they could just ignore it or call their bluff things would change. Once they are out of school everything is different, anyway. They need to think long term or realize the problems they are facing is not really about them at all.
Everything happens for a reason and suicide is not something that you can come back from.
Talk to someone and get another person involved and that split second it takes to commit suicide will not happen.
You are never alone.
Please think about the results.
